Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: Friendship Advice for Kids (K-8)

Ep. 145 - Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: He doesn’t like one kid in the group (Joe, Age 9) | Friendship advice for kids
FREE guide for parents: 12 ways to help your child make friends
https://drfriendtastic.com/gift/
Parents, check out my online workshops for kids at workshops.eileenkennedymoore.com.
Would YOUR KID like to be featured on the podcast?
SUBMIT A QUESTION TO DR. FRIENDTASTIC at https://DrFriendtastic.com/submit (Obviously, this is not psychotherapy, and it’s not for emergency situations.)
For an easy-to-read TRANSCRIPT, go to: https://DrFriendtastic.com/podcast/
Like the podcast? Check out my books at https://EileenKennedyMoore.com.
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*** DISCUSSION QUESTIONS:
- Have you ever had to get along with someone you don’t particularly like? How did you handle that?
- How can disliking someone (and telling people you don’t like that person!) hurt your friendships with other kids?
- Dr. Friendtastic said that staying away from a group because you don’t like one person “would be giving this one kid a lot of power to influence who you play with and what you do.” What does this mean?
- Why is trying to kick someone out of a group an unkind thing to do?
- Why might flooding someone you don’t like with kindness be a useful strategy? (Hint: How are they likely to respond?) When would this strategy not be a good idea?
*** You might also like these podcast episodes:
Ep. 138 - When joking is mean, not funny (Seb, Age 11)
https://drfriendtastic.substack.com/p/ep138-when-joking-is-mean-not-funny-seb-age11
Ep. 12 - Kid bullies him at recess (Adrian, Age 8)
https://drfriendtastic.substack.com/p/kids-ask-dr-friendtastic-ep-12-adrian
Ep. 3 - Kid tries to wreck game (Noelle, Age 10)
https://drfriendtastic.substack.com/p/kids-ask-dr-friendtastic-episode-4b8



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Ep. 144 - Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: You don't have to stay on the outside looking in | Friendship advice for kids
FREE guide for parents: 12 ways to help your child make friends
https://drfriendtastic.com/gift/
Parents, check out my online workshops for kids at workshops.eileenkennedymoore.com.
Would YOUR KID like to be featured on the podcast?
SUBMIT A QUESTION TO DR. FRIENDTASTIC at https://DrFriendtastic.com/submit (Obviously, this is not psychotherapy, and it’s not for emergency situations.)
For an easy-to-read TRANSCRIPT, go to: https://DrFriendtastic.com/podcast/
Like the podcast? Check out my books at https://EileenKennedyMoore.com.
Subscribe to my NEWSLETTER, https://DrFriendtastic.substack.com, to get podcast episodes sent to your email plus articles for parents.
*** DISCUSSION QUESTIONS:
- What are some reasons why it’s sometimes hard to join a group of kids?
- Why is it important to match the emotional tone of a conversation if you want to join a group?
- What do you look for when you decide whether to try to join a group?
- Do you think you are open to having kids join you if you are hanging out with friends at school or at an activity? What could you do to make another kid feel welcome?
- Do you always have to include people who want to join your group? Why or why not?

*** You might also like these podcast episodes:
Ep. 112 - How to Show Openness to Friendship
https://drfriendtastic.substack.com/p/ep112-how-to-show-openness-to-friendship
Ep. 85 - Fitting in versus being true to yourself (Nev, Age 11)
https://drfriendtastic.substack.com/p/ep85-nev-age-11-fitting-in-versus-being-true-to-yourself
Ep. 98 - How to join a group when not everyone wants you in (Jessica, Age 9)
https://drfriendtastic.substack.com/p/ep98-jessica-age9-how-to-join-a-group-when-not-everyone-wants-you-in



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Ep. 143 - Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: Being flexible with friends | Friendship advice for kids
Parents, check out my online workshops for kids at workshops.eileenkennedymoore.com.
FREE quiz: Is Your Child a Good Friend? https://eileenkennedymoore.ck.page/e37dcc098f
Would YOUR KID like to be featured on the podcast?
SUBMIT A QUESTION TO DR. FRIENDTASTIC at https://DrFriendtastic.com/submit (Obviously, this is not psychotherapy, and it’s not for emergency situations.)
For an easy-to-read TRANSCRIPT, go to: https://DrFriendtastic.com/podcast/
Like the podcast? Check out my books at https://EileenKennedyMoore.com.
Subscribe to my NEWSLETTER, https://DrFriendtastic.substack.com, to get podcast episodes sent to your email plus articles for parents.
*** DISCUSSION QUESTIONS:
- When a person is flexible, it means they can adjust to new, unexpected, or unwanted situations. What is an example of someone being flexible with friends? What is an example of someone being rigid with friends?
- How do these two styles (flexible or rigid) affect friendships?
- Does being flexible mean you never get to do what you want? Why or why not?
- Why is it hard to be flexible when we’re upset?
*** You might also like these podcast episodes:
Ep. 5 - Friend doesn’t do what I want (Edith, Age 8)
https://drfriendtastic.substack.com/p/kids-ask-dr-friendtastic-episode-af3
Ep. 18 - Building great leadership skills (Kai, Age 9)
https://drfriendtastic.substack.com/p/kids-ask-dr-friendtastic-ep-18-kai
Ep. 28 - Dealing with spill-over anger (Avni, Age 11)
https://drfriendtastic.substack.com/p/kids-ask-dr-friendtastic-ep-28-avni



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Ep. 142 - Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: Being friendly vs. being friends | Friendship advice for kids
Parents, check out my online workshops for kids at workshops.eileenkennedymoore.com.
FREE quiz: Is Your Child a Good Friend? https://eileenkennedymoore.ck.page/e37dcc098f
Would YOUR KID like to be featured on the podcast?
SUBMIT A QUESTION TO DR. FRIENDTASTIC at https://DrFriendtastic.com/submit (Obviously, this is not psychotherapy, and it’s not for emergency situations.)
For an easy-to-read TRANSCRIPT, go to: https://DrFriendtastic.com/podcast/
Like the podcast? Check out my books at https://EileenKennedyMoore.com.
Subscribe to my NEWSLETTER, https://DrFriendtastic.substack.com, to get podcast episodes sent to your email plus articles for parents.
*** DISCUSSION QUESTIONS:
- If you could be any age, what age would you choose to be and why?
- Have you ever moved or had a friend move away from you? What happened?
- Do you think it’s fair that Alice’s best friend found a new best friend after Alice moved away? Why or why not?
- What would you do if you found out that you and your family had to move far away from where you live now? How would you try to stay in touch with old friends? How would you make new friends?
- How is life (and friendship) like a leaf, floating downstream?
*** You might also like these podcast episodes:
Ep. 72 - Making friends in a new school (Nora, Age 8)
https://drfriendtastic.substack.com/p/ep72-nora-age-8-making-friends-new-schl
Ep. 117 - How to tell if a friend is loyal (Julian, Age 12)
https://drfriendtastic.substack.com/p/how-to-tell-if-a-friend-is-loyal 
Ep. 62: All About Forgiveness
https://drfriendtastic.substack.com/p/ep62-all-about-forgiveness



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REPLAY of Ep. 126 - Kids Ask Dr. Friendtastic: Talking and Listening with Friends | Friendship advice for kids
No one is born knowing how to have a good conversation! In this episode, I share five practical tips to help kids chat more comfortably with others.
🎁 My gift to you — 3 free mini-guides for parents: https://eileenkennedymoore.com/free-mini-guides/
Online workshops for kids: workshops.eileenkennedymoore.com.
🎙️ Would YOUR KID like to be on the podcast? Submit a question at https://DrFriendtastic.com/submit (Not psychotherapy or for emergencies.)
Easy-to-read transcript: https://DrFriendtastic.com/podcast/
Like the podcast? Check out my books: https://EileenKennedyMoore.com
Never miss an episode! https://DrFriendtastic.substack.com
*** DISCUSSION QUESTIONS:
- Why do you think kids sometimes feel nervous about talking with other people? (Hint: What might they be afraid of?)
- Who do you enjoy chatting with? Why? (Hint: What do they do that makes your conversation enjoyable?)
- How could you answer the question “How are you?” using the “Great!”-plus-one-fact formula? (Reminder: The “one fact” should create a picture in the listener's mind.) Why might this be a useful formula for conversations?
- Dr. Friendtastic says, “focus on being interested more than interesting.” What does that mean? Why might it be a helpful approach to conversations?
*** You might also like these podcast episodes:
Ep. 72 - Making friends in a new school (Nora, Age 8)  https://drfriendtastic.substack.com/p/ep72-nora-age-8-making-friends-new-schl 
Ep. 70 - Knowing when and how to stop (Owen, Age 8)  https://drfriendtastic.substack.com/p/ep70-owen-age-8-stop-signals 
Ep. 92 - What to say when a friend is feeling down (Mason, Age 13)  https://drfriendtastic.substack.com/p/ep92-mason-age-13-what-to-say-when-a-friend-feels-down


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