Hello, I'm psychologist and parenting expert Dr Maryhan and this is How Not To Screw Up Your Kids, the podcast for parents, grandparents, educators, and anyone ...
When your child struggles to handle their big emotions, what do you do? If you’re like me, you’ll listen to podcasts and read all the books. And, if you’re like me, you probably found none of them helped much in practice. Am I right?Well, in this episode, I’m going to help you cut through the noise, to understand the reasons why your child might appear to be acting out or struggling with intense emotions. I am going to help you go back to the source, figure out why they happen, and then help you figure out what to do about it.So, pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…Highlights from this episode:00:49 - I don’t like labels03:10 - Early development08:16 - Is there a skills gap?12:35 - Tweaking the brain circuits15:00 - Validate the emotions16:46 - Label the emotions19:41 - Bridging the skills gap21:58 - A toolkit for managing big emotions23:37 - Change takes time and consistency💚 Let’s grow our village together, please with at least one friend💚 mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Bucket Emptying: When Siblings Get Physical
Do your kids like to play rough?Can they take it too far until one of them gets hurt?Do arguments quickly escalate into physical fights?You're not alone! Most parents with multiple children will experience this at some point, so in this week’s bucket emptying episode, I explain what you can and should do when siblings get physical, and share some quick tips you can use right away.We explore how you can effectively diffuse a physical altercation between your children, and also help them to manage any big emotions which might be causing their physical outbursts.Highlights from this episode:01:46 - Stop the fight as soon as possible03:42 - Put physical space between your children05:12 - Judge the fight, not the people07:47 - Talk it through💚 Let’s grow our village together, please with at least one friend💚 mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Self-Esteem and Lying
Spoiler alert: all children lie! And many of our children will experience self-esteem issues, so it’s really important to understand how to recognise it, and support your children through these difficult times.Does your child lie often about silly things?Are they not growing out of it like you thought they would?Do their lies cause upset or consequences to others?If you answered yes to any of these, you’re not alone!In this episode, I talk you through the key things you need to know, including what you should avoid and what you need to start doing to help.Highlights from this episode:01:22 - Children who lack confidence do this…04:21 - Lying as a coping mechanism09:17 - 2 things you should avoid12:08 - 5 things to start doing15:12 - Which line is longer?18:31 - Praise the process22:57 - Confidence is an inside job26:34 - White lies💚 Let’s grow our village together, please with at least one friend💚 mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Bucket Emptying: Cultivating Contentment
Whether your situation - be it parenting solo, coparenting, parallel parenting or something else - we can all agree that sometimes parenting is hell! That’s why this episode is all about finding contentment.From the Happiness Myth to mantas, I share some top ways you can cultivate your own contentment, helping you stay happy, healthy and motivated to take on whatever life (and the kids) throw at you!Highlights from this episode:00:48 - The Happiness Myth03:03 - A typical scenario04:43 - Scan the day08:21 - The power of mantras💚 Let’s grow our village together, please with at least one friend💚 mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Anxiety and Everyday Life Stress
Does your child seem anxious or worried?What are the signs to look out for?And what can you do to help?In this episode, I am going to talk you through how to manage anxiety and worry in your child, by applying what I call the Seesaw of Wellbeing. I help you to understand what an unbalanced seesaw looks like, how this might present itself in everyday life, and some actionable steps you can take to rebalance.Highlights from this episode:01:36 - The Seesaw of Wellbeing06:37 - The symptoms of unbalanced seesaws11:01 - The different kinds of unbalanced seesaws12:47 - The three categories16:32 - Anxiety20:02 - What can we do to help?💚 Let’s grow our village together, please with at least one friend💚 mentioned in the episodes💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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Hello, I'm psychologist and parenting expert Dr Maryhan and this is How Not To Screw Up Your Kids, the podcast for parents, grandparents, educators, and anyone else who wants to be part of a movement to raise confident children who grow up believing in themselves.Follow now for twice weekly episodes - on Monday's you'll find shorter Bucket Emptying episodes, with longer episodes each Thursday.The greatest gift we can give our children is self-belief. It will get them further in life than any qualification and is absolutely possible for each and every child; we just need the right information and support around us to teach them.The old saying ‘it takes a village to raise a child” couldn’t be more true than now. Parenting has got a whole lot harder; not just because we are busier than ever but because our children are growing up in an ever changing, fast-paced world, which is so different to the one we grew up in. Our children have more pressure to be better, look better, do better, and in a world where lives are so publicly scrutinised and commented on through social media it’s really no wonder we’re seeing mental health problems sky rocketing amongst children, teens, and young adults. What you can expect from this podcast are honest conversations about parenting.We’ll talk confidence resilience, anxiety, managing tech, and all the topics you’d expect as well blowing the lid off the widely help misconception that children are innately resilient. They’re not!This podcast is for people who want to get real about parenting. You understand it can get messy sometimes and aren’t afraid to admit it. I have had more than my fair share of messy and I will no doubt share these with you along the way. I won’t dress things up but I will always give you something practical to take away and use in each and every episode. My guests and experts will be real people who have overcome their own adversities and bring with them a message to us as parents, as well as inspiring stories.So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation... Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.