Feelings...and Other Inconveniences

Why do we want to be seen… and also feel the urge to hide?
In this episode of Feelings and Other Inconveniences, we unpack the psychology of being seen — from social media and identity curation to the deeper fear of judgment, rejection, and being misunderstood.
We explore:
the difference between being seen vs being looked at
how fear of judgment and rejection shapes what we share
the pressure of social media, visibility, and validation
why being accurately understood matters more than just being visible
how people-pleasing, comparison, and identity influence how much space we take up
the vulnerability of putting yourself out there (including writing a book and public exposure)
This conversation gets into the real tension between visibility and safety — and why even confident, self-aware people still wrestle with it.
If you've ever overthought a post, held yourself back in a conversation, or worried about how you're being perceived, this episode is for you.

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Book: I Can't Stop Eating

In this episode, Stefanie Michele and Sarah Dosanjh dig into a familiar problem: why we don't do the things we know help us.
Using real-life examples (walks, movement, scheduling, tiny "extra steps" that somehow feel huge), they unpack how mental load, environment cues, and internal parts create resistance.
They explore the difference between shame-driven self-talk and real self-compassion, how validating resistance can loosen it, and when "understanding why" is the turning point.
Expect practical takeaways, parts-work insight, and a refreshingly human conversation about motivation, inertia, and follow-through.
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Book: I Can't Stop Eating

In this episode of Feelings… and Other Inconveniences, Stefanie Michele (certified coach + somatic practitioner) and Sarah Dosanjh (psychotherapist + author) unpack what it means to stay emotionally sane when the world feels like it's on fire.
 
We talk about the tightrope between staying informed and getting emotionally flooded (or going numb),
 
why social media comments can feel more destabilising than the headlines,
 
and how two people can watch the same thing and walk away with entirely different realities (hello, "the dress" — but with much higher stakes).
 
We also explore how values, identity, and nervous system states shape what we perceive as "truth", and why a calm response to an un-calm situation isn't always the goal. 
 
Most importantly: we get practical.
 
If you've been trying to "think your way out" of stress, we'll share nervous-system-friendly ways to discharge what your body is holding.
 
If you're feeling overwhelmed, helpless, furious, frozen, guilty for switching off, guilty for staying tuned in… you're not alone.
 
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Book: I Can't Stop Eating

It's that time of year when everyone starts acting like January is a reset button and a goal will save their life.
In this episode, Sarah and Stefanie talk about goals without the usual hype. The kind that actually fit your values versus the ones you absorb from culture and then punish yourself for not wanting. They get into why goal language can feel weirdly controlling, why outcome-based goals can ramp up pressure fast, and what changes when you shift toward intention, presence, and process instead of chasing a finish line.
If goal season makes you feel motivated and vaguely annoyed (or just tired), this conversation will make you feel less alone — and probably a little clearer about what you actually want going into 2026.
Tune in to hear about...
 
Why "goal season" can feel motivating and weirdly pressurizing

The difference between borrowed goals (culture-approved) and goals that actually fit you

Goals vs. intentions: why intention can feel more flexible and human

Process goals vs. outcome goals (and why process can be less mentally suffocating)

What it looks like to release outcome-control without giving up on growth

How "productivity culture" sneaks into personal development language

Why certain goals (especially body/weight-related ones) are more loaded

Redefining success around presence, alignment, and capacity

Knowing when stepping back is growth (not "falling behind")

The push-pull of action vs. receptivity (masculine/feminine energy)

Picking a "word for the year" as a softer entry point into change

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Book: I Can't Stop Eating

In this episode of Feelings… and Other Inconveniences, we dive into the invisible weight of mental load – the constant thinking, tracking and planning that never seems to switch off, even when we are "off duty." 
Are we confusing mental load with caring?
What happens in our bodies when we are carrying too much?
And what do we believe will fall apart if we stop managing everything?
We talk about:
 
💫 How to tell the difference between stress and anxiety in real life, not just in theory
💫 Caring for ageing parents, parenting, work and that feeling of always having "one more thing" to do
💫 The idea of open loops and why unfinished tasks drain so much energy
💫 When mental load becomes part of our identity and why letting go can feel selfish
💫 Control, non-attachment and those fleeting moments of "I actually don't mind what happens"
💫 Guilt, people pleasing and why even help from others can trigger discomfort If your brain feels like it is running a full-time job no one is paying you for, this one is for you. 
 
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Book: I Can't Stop Eating