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Think a dom is just leather, whips, and someone kneeling on the floor? You’re missing almost everything.
Dominance isn’t one thing, it’s a whole spectrum, and this week I’m decoding all of it with Amanda Dames, better known as The Kink Consultant: a certified somatic sex and relationship coach, certified sexologist, and former professional dominatrix who’s been featured in Cosmopolitan and Women’s Health. Together we break down every type of dom so you can finally figure out which kind you are, or which kind you’re looking for. (And I’ll be honest, this one got personal, because I’m on my own search for my dom right now.)
In this episode, you’ll learn:
What actually makes someone a dom (hint: it’s not the whip)
The real difference between a dom and a top, and a dom, domme, and dominatrix
Every type explained: caregiver, master/mistress, sadist, primal, soft dom, service dom, disciplinarian, findom, and pleasure dom
Why the “daddy/mommy dom” dynamic is so misunderstood (and usually has nothing to do with age play)
How to figure out which kind of dom is authentic to YOU
Where to actually find a dom, and the green flags and red flags to watch for
Whether you want to be a dom or find one, you’ll walk away knowing exactly what lights you up, and how to go get it.
Want the full breakdown, every type explained in detail, plus how to find your match? Read the complete guide on my website:
 🔥 Types of Doms: Every Kind of Dominant Explained
Guest: Amanda Dames, The Kink Consultant, @The_KinkConsultant on Instagram.
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What gets you off probably isn’t nearly as rare as you think.
We’re halfway through Kinktober, so this week I’m pulling back the curtain on the 10 most common kinks, from the mild to the wild, with real science-backed research along the way. I’m talking BDSM, foot fetishes, cuckolding, exhibitionism, furries, sploshing, sensory deprivation, medical play, age play, and yes, balloon-loving looners. Some of these will surprise you, some will make you laugh, and at least one will probably make you feel a lot more normal than you expected.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
Which kink tops the list (and why it’s not even close)
The surprising research on why foot fetishes are wired into the brain
How some of the most “taboo” kinks actually strengthen relationships
The real numbers behind what people fantasize about, from the largest study of its kind
Why having a kink is normal, and good for you
Whether you’re into bondage or balloons, you are not alone, and there’s probably a study explaining exactly why you’re into what you’re into.
Want the full breakdown with all the research, every kink explained, and how to start exploring yours safely? Read the complete guide on my website:
 🔥 The 10 Most Common Kinks (and the Science Behind Them)
And if you want to explore your own kinks or figure out how to bring them to a partner, my intimacy coaching books are open, learn more at https://talksexwithannette.com.
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Your sex life isn't broken, it's just gone quiet. And quiet is fixable.
This week I'm handing you an actual plan: a 31-day sex challenge to reignite desire, reconnect, and get curious again, no dramatic overhaul, no painful heart-to-heart, just one small, low-pressure invitation at a time. My guest is Alicia Sinclair, a certified sex educator with nearly 25 years in intimate wellness, founder and CEO of COTR (the company behind B-Vibe and Le Wand), and 2026 XBIZ Sexpert of the Year. Together we built you a real calendar you can follow, one nudge a day.
In this episode, we break down:
Why sex goes quiet in long-term relationships (hint: it's almost never the love)
The biggest mistake couples make when they try to spice things up, and how it backfires
The yes/no/maybe list: the single best place to start when you're in a rut
How to share a fantasy, or receive one, without shutting each other down
How to bring in toys and novelty without feeling overwhelmed
How to map a whole month, from conversation to sensation to power play to blending it all
Whether you've been together fifteen years or fifteen days, you'll have somewhere to start tonight, and a whole month mapped out after that. Most days cost nothing. All of them are low-pressure.
Grab the full 31-day calendar, every prompt, plus the toys and discount codes we mention, right here:
 🔥 How to Fix a Dead Bedroom: The 31-Day Sex Challenge (Full Guide + Calendar)
🔥  BDSM Checklist: 107 Kinks and Limits to Rate With Your Partner
Guest: Alicia Sinclair, @aliciasinclair. Her brands: B-Vibe, Le Wand, Cowgirl, and Together Toys.
Grab my codes and every toy we talk about in my e-newsletter at talksexwithannette.com. My listeners should never pay full price for their pleasure. Until next time, I'll see you in the locker room. Cheers.
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Yes, nipple orgasms are real, and you can learn to have one.
This week I'm breaking down the nipplegasm: a full orgasm, felt in the genitals, that starts entirely from nipple play. I had my first one through my own self-pleasure practice, so everything here comes from real experience plus the research. No gear required to start, and it works on any body with nipples.
In this episode, I break down:
What a nipplegasm actually is, and the brain science that makes it possible
The step-by-step: setting the mood, warming up, and massaging the breasts right
How to touch a nipple like a clit, circling, rolling, tapping, and more
The training method I used to teach my body to climax from nipple play alone
The toys that make it easier, from hands-free suckers to suction toys
Why it's okay if nipple play isn't for you
By the end, you'll know exactly how to have, or give, a nipplegasm, and have a whole new way to orgasm in your toolkit.
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Want the full written guide, plus every toy and discount code I mention? Read it here:
 💦 How to Have a Nipple Orgasm (The Full Guide)
More from my clitoral pleasure set:
 💦 20 Ways to Touch a Clit
💦 How to Touch Her Breasts
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Most people think dominance and submission means a dungeon full of gear, and they never get past the shopping list.
This week I'm showing you the part that actually builds the heat. This is a foundational episode with power-exchange couple Auntie Carmen, the Desire Midwife, and her dom Linwood, the "dom domestic" who cooks, runs the house, and hands the power right back to her. You almost never get both halves of a real D/S couple in one room being this honest, and they hold nothing back (there's a zucchini story you won't forget).
In this episode, I break down:
Why the feeling you're chasing matters way more than the gear, and how to name it
How to figure out what you actually want, even if you always say "I don't know"
The everyday rituals that keep the dynamic running all day long, no toys required
Dominance through service, and how to flip who's in charge
Why this is the fix for sex that's started to feel like one more job
The golden rules: consent, building slow, and never a cold spank
By the end, you'll have a real on-ramp into power exchange instead of a scary idea you never act on, and it's landing just in time for Kinktober.
Want to see the full conversation? The video version is on my website, and you can grab every toy, lube, and discount code I mention in my e-newsletter at talksexwithannette.com. My listeners should never pay full price for their pleasure. Until next time, I'll see you in the locker room. Cheers.
Guest: Auntie Carmen, the Desire Midwife, Find her at: https://shameproofyourdesires.com/
Insta: @shameproofyourdesires.
The Masterclass: https://midcenturymischief.com/
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🔥 How to Build a Dom/Sub Dynamic Into Everyday Life (The Full Guide)
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